Deal With a Mean Friend

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	#Structure your complaint as a cause and effect statement: “When you _____, it makes me feel _____.”[[Image:Deal With a Mean Friend Step 7.jpg|center]]		#Structure your complaint as a cause and effect statement: “When you _____, it makes me feel _____.”[[Image:Deal With a Mean Friend Step 7.jpg|center]]
	#*Remember to keep your complaint short and to the point. Do not include any unnecessary details in your complaint. Providing too many details will lessen the impact of your complaint and it may leave your friend confused about the exact purpose of your complaint. <ref>http://lifehacker.com/5909055/how-to-productively-call-people-out-on-their-bs-without-being-an-asshole</ref>		#*Remember to keep your complaint short and to the point. Do not include any unnecessary details in your complaint. Providing too many details will lessen the impact of your complaint and it may leave your friend confused about the exact purpose of your complaint. <ref>http://lifehacker.com/5909055/how-to-productively-call-people-out-on-their-bs-without-being-an-asshole</ref>
−	#*If you feel especially nervous about confronting your friend, you may want to practice with another trusted friend to make yourself feel more confident.	+	#*If you feel especially nervous about confronting your friend, you may want to practice with another trusted friend to make yourself feel more confident. or hang them
	#Confront your friend. When you feel prepared to confront your friend, take a deep breath and deliver your complaint how you practiced it. Keep a low, even tone to your voice and be kind and polite as you confront the person. If you seem calm, your friend will be more likely to respond in a like manner.[[Image:Deal With a Mean Friend Step 8.jpg|center]]		#Confront your friend. When you feel prepared to confront your friend, take a deep breath and deliver your complaint how you practiced it. Keep a low, even tone to your voice and be kind and polite as you confront the person. If you seem calm, your friend will be more likely to respond in a like manner.[[Image:Deal With a Mean Friend Step 8.jpg|center]]
	#*Don’t lose control or retort with insults if your friend becomes irate. If things begin to fall apart, simply thank your friend for hearing your complaint and excuse yourself. In a worst case scenario, you can still control your own behavior and you will feel better knowing that you handled the situation in a mature, intelligent manner. <ref>http://lifehacker.com/5909055/how-to-productively-call-people-out-on-their-bs-without-being-an-asshole</ref>		#*Don’t lose control or retort with insults if your friend becomes irate. If things begin to fall apart, simply thank your friend for hearing your complaint and excuse yourself. In a worst case scenario, you can still control your own behavior and you will feel better knowing that you handled the situation in a mature, intelligent manner. <ref>http://lifehacker.com/5909055/how-to-productively-call-people-out-on-their-bs-without-being-an-asshole</ref>